When I first started my body love journey I felt overwhelmed, lost, and sometimes a little angry. How the hell was I supposed to love this body? The body in which I had been in an all out war with for so long?
I would try to love my body, but I just couldn’t get there. I didn’t love it yet, and I wasn’t sure if I ever truly would. All I knew was that I didn’t want to spend any more time being in a war with it. I wanted to find some type of peace.
This feeling isn’t uncommon. The body-love movement is here, and picking up steam. But sometimes, the “love your body” slogan can be a little too much for those of us starting out on this journey.
This journey – you are going to have moments when you don’t love your body. That is the reality of it.
So, what can you do instead?
You don’t have to love your body to start loving yourself. You can begin the process of loving yourself as you are right now, and accepting where you are. Try to work on acceptance, or neutrality, before taking on the concept of loving your body.
Accepting where you are, is accepting what is. And in this moment- as you read this, this is where you are. And as you are right now, is enough to show up in this world and go about making it whatever you choose to make it.
Body acceptance isn’t a matter of hating your body, but it isn’t a matter of loving it either. It is however, a step in the direction towards creating a better relationship with your body. The goal is to simply not be consumed by your body.
Body-love takes time. We don’t go from one extreme to the other, so instead of forcing yourself to love your body, work on just accepting it.
Once I was able to work on being neutral with my body, versus loving it, it was like a big weight was lifted off my shoulders. I was able to start seeing myself for who I was – and learning to be okay with it. I was able to move forward, without sprinting.
The thing about body acceptance and self-love is that it is individual. There isn’t a right or wrong way to go about it, and everyone’s journey is going to be different. Some may be able to jump quicker to the other side of body-love, but for most, that probably isn’t the case.
In closing my friend, if you are struggling with loving your body – it is okay. Don’t worry about loving it just yet, try being friends with it first.