Like so many components of life, modern times have diluted some of our simplest pleasures causing us to take them for granted. Dating and courtship are no exception. Women generally have a good idea of what they want out of a relationship and how they’d like to be treated, but how do you get there?
It’s all about confidence, security and self-respect. As a man, I can tell you that there is nothing more attractive than a confident, secure woman. If a woman walks tall and believes in herself, she will likely attract a man who will treat her with the respect and adoration she deserves.
You have to love yourself first before you can expect anyone else to. That means being happy in your skin and being okay with being alone. Personally, I’m a fan of the “pre-date interview.” If you meet someone you think you may be interested in, agree to meet for lunch. This is a great, non-committal way to get to know a little about the person face-to-face and decide if you might like to go out with them. If not, you’re out an hour instead of being stuck on an uncomfortable and seemingly never-ending date.
Traditional dating is a lot of fun. A gentlemen asks a lady out with due notice and if she accepts, he makes a plan and picks up the tab. Now it is 2016, so ladies you can ask the gentlemen out, too; chivalry is a two-way street. Married couples; alternate asking each other out, planning the evening and keep it chivalrous.
In need of genuine, no-nonsense dating advice delivered from a gentleman’s perspective? Questions, comments or feedback? I’d love to hear from ya! Please contact me at: johnnyzapp@thechivalrouslife.com
xo
Johnny